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Tuesday, September 20, 2005

Twelve Principles for Developing Positive Relationships

Etienne A. Gibbs, MSW

Establishing meaningful, loving, supportive, and cooperative relationships with patients, clients, our adult parents, and others is not a difficult thing to do. Like anything else worthwhile, it warrants our attention to details, mainly our concern for others.

To set you on the right road of redefining your relationships, in helping you to make yours more positive, here are 12 principles of human behavior to consider:
  1. Building positive relationships is like building a house; it takes practice, time, and patience.

  2. Applying the Christian principle of agape, brotherly love, allows you to become a more responsible and more capable person.

  3. Because agape is based on equality and mutual respect, it permits people to make choices.

  4. Every human behavior has a social purpose. When people misbehave, they do so because they are pursuing their goal of attention, revenge, power, or manipulation.

  5. Changing your negative behavior can most effectively influence the negative behavior of others.

  6. Because your positive relationships are influenced by your positive actions, show appreciation for the positive behavior in others.

  7. Because it usually takes two to tango, withdraw from conditions that can easily lead to power struggles - verbally and physically, if need be.

  8. Because retaliation stimulates further revenge, avoid retaliating with revengeful people. Instead, express goodwill. You'll be surprised about how quickly you'll improve the quality of the relationships.

  9. Instead of finding faults in others, focus on their assets and strengths. Instead of finding fault in what they've done wrong or improperly, why not choose to focus on all the positive things the person has accomplished. Like they say, "Turn lemons into lemonade."

  10. Showing confidence in your others will help them develop their self-confidence. Small steps of success lead to larger and more solid successes.

  11. Because a manipulator lacks self-confidence, focus on his or her past legitimate successes.

  12. Because a pushy or bossy person is difficult to hold a conversation with, communicate with this person through your loving actions.

Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.

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